What Is the Ego (Really)? – A Nondual View

The word “ego” is used in spiritual circles so often, it’s easy to lose sight of its true meaning. Some think of it as arrogance, others as personality. But in the light of Advaita Vedanta and nonduality, the ego is something far more subtle—and far more deceptive.

So what is the ego, really?

The Ego: A Case of Mistaken Identity

The ego is not a thing. It’s a belief—a deeply ingrained idea that “I am a separate individual.” That I am this body, this mind, this name, this history. It’s a collection of stories about “me.”

This “me” wants things. It fears loss. It chases pleasure and avoids discomfort. And it constantly feels incomplete—seeking fulfillment in achievement, relationships, or spirituality.

But here’s the paradox: the ego doesn’t actually exist in any real or fixed way. It’s a phantom, built from identification with thoughts and form.

Ego vs. Awareness

Let’s say a thought arises: “I’m not good enough.” Immediately, the ego claims it. “This is my thought. I feel this way.” But if you pause, you’ll notice something miraculous…

You are aware of the thought.You are the one observing it.So if you can see the ego, how can you be the ego?

This is the beginning of true freedom. Not by destroying the ego, but by seeing through it—by no longer identifying with its voice.

How to Work With the Ego (Not Against It)

Trying to “kill” the ego usually strengthens it. It becomes the spiritual ego: “I’m the one who is more awakened than others.”Instead, gently inquire:

• Who is thinking this?

• Who is feeling this emotion?

• Who am I, truly?

When you ask from the stillness of presence, the answers dissolve—and what remains is peace.

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